Are you ready to enjoy a loving relationship, a successful career, a healthy and trim body, and success?
Then close your eyes and imagine that you are in a beautiful air balloon ready to take off, to have what you desire in your life.
Now look toward the ground and notice if there are any ropes holding you down, stopping you from being free to fly. In order to go on in your life, it is necessary to cut those ropes–to overcome not your fears of failure but your fears of success.
You may be as stormed as I was when I first noticed the fear of success. It looks unlogical to push aside the very things we want. We are unique, but our problems are not. See if you tell apart any of your fears, your blocks to success so that you can defeat them and feel the exhilaration of flying free in your air balloon.
The “Seven fears to eliminate to achieve success ”
1. Fear of the unidentified. “I don’t know what it would be like to be in a loving relationship or successful career.”
2. Fear that success doesn’t fit your self-image.
3. Fear that people will not like you if you are successful. “If I’m successful in my career, no man will desire me.”
4. Fear that you don’t merit success. Eg “I feel guilty because I once stole money from my parents.”
5. Fear that success has a scary consequence. “If I get the advancement, I won’t have enough time to spend with my family.”
6. Fear that your parents won’t love you if you’re more successful than they are. Eg “I don’t want my father to feel bad.”
7. Fear that to be successful is to fulfill your parents’ wishes. “I’m angry at them for not showing me enough attention when I was a kid. I’ll show them–I won’t have a successful career.”
If you are ready to be all that you are and have what you desire, then close your eyes and imagine that you are in your beautiful air balloon. Feel the weights of the fears of success dropping off easily so that you can take off.
Look below and notice the beautiful green meadow, the majestic mountains in the distance, and the peaceful blue sky filled with puffy white clouds.
Sometimes I feel less than great. Low, grouchy, fed-up, and bored are all words you could use to describe what I’m like on those days and I’m probably not the best company. The thing is, days like those are part of the deal with being human – it’s not an elective. There will always be off days, and that’s okay.
But what happens when you get a whole string of those off-days, maybe lasting weeks, months, or even years? Too many of us say that we’re in a rut, feel stuck, fed-up, or bored, and admit that we don’t want things to be that way, but we don’t know what to do to change. That’s the problem, when you’re in a rut, you don’t have the energy or motivation to change things for the better, and it’s tough to find the insight or resources you need to make that jump.
Here are five fun and easy ways you can use right now to climb, or better yet, leap, out of the rut and start to get something better for yourself.
1. Do Something Differently
Life tends to run smoothly when we establish systems and routines for things, but the problem comes when things run too smoothly and we become blinded to any ideas or choices that sit outside of our routine. All the stuff we do every day becomes the norm, running on auto-pilot, and it becomes our whole world.
Start with making one or two simple changes to your day – be it at breakfast time, your radio station, gym routine, route to work, lunch routine, etc. Don’t worry about what the changes are or whether they’re right or wrong, just make a couple of simple choices that will serve you well.
Doing something differently or changing parts of your routine, instantly takes you out of the norm and allows you to shake off the things that make you feel confined. Step out of your routine and you’ll be in a position where you’re able to make different choices, see things differently and get a different result.
2. Use your Intuition
Your intuition is a powerful ally, and we all have it even though you might not recognize it. The dictionary says that intuition is:
1.a. The act or faculty of knowing or sensing without the use of rational processes; immediate cognition.
1.b. Knowledge gained by the use of this faculty; a perceptive insight.
2. A sense of something not evident or deducible; an impression.
One of the best friends you’ll ever have in life is your intuition, and tuning into it and learning to trust it is something that can have some truly remarkable effects. Accessing your intuition is a bit like working and developing a muscle, but unfortunately, it can be harder to locate than a bicep or quadricep, which tend to stay in the same place. Here are some quick tips for accessing and trusting it –
• Practice maintaining an open-minded, playful, experimental, non-judgmental attitude. This is the most fertile ground to tap into your intuition.
• Practice making wild guesses in your everyday life. Guess what a salesperson’s name is, what a new person or place will look like or who’s calling on the phone. Don’t worry about getting it wrong, you’re just working that muscle.
• Try a few simple observation exercises in your daily life. Whether you’re in a restaurant, on a train, in a bar, or out shopping, practice noticing non-verbal behavior in others. Look for shifts in posture, eye movements, vocal tone or tempo, etc. Guess how they’re feeling or what they’re talking about.
I hope these tips help you in your personal growth Journey
I have been listening to the personal development program that I market as part of my business. – today was all about how we can make a difference in how we live and show up every day. The presenter shared the Starfish story and it’s a great illustration of making a difference in other people’s lives. We all have the power to inspire and make a difference.
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An old man was doing his daily walk along the beach one morning, when he spotted a young boy crouched by the water, scooping something up from the sand and throwing it into the sea.
The beach was normally empty at this time of day, and so the old man stopped to watch for a while.
He noticed that the boy kept on shuffling a little further down the beach, then repeating this same action again and again – stopping, scooping, throwing, moving.
“What are you doing there, boy?” the old man asked, walking closer.
“I’m saving these starfish that are stranded” replied the boy, “if they stay on the beach they will dry out and die, so I’m putting them back into the ocean so they can live.”
The old man was silent for a few seconds.
“Young man” he said, “on this stretch of beach alone, there must be more than one hundred stranded starfish. Around the next corner, there must be at least one thousand more. This goes on for miles and miles and miles – I’ve done this walk every day for 10 years, and it’s always the same. There must be millions of stranded starfish! I hate to say it, but you’ll never make a difference.”
The boy replied “well I just made a difference for that one”, and continued with his work.
I have been spending time on my Personal Development / MIndest course. I spend some time yesterday learning all about the Mental Models that drive us through life – we do things without question. Our programming controls how we operate on a daily basis, without question, unless we decide to make a change in break patterns from the past.
I used to tell this story when I was in party plan – when I illustrated how we all learned to put on perfume. Dab on the wrist, behind the ears, etc. This actually bruises the scent – but it was done because, during the war times, it was scarce and it was away to make it go further. Our mothers watched their mothers, and so on. – exactly like the story below.
A young married couple was in their kitchen. The husband was sitting at the kitchen table reading the newspaper while his wife was preparing a roast lamb for dinner.
The husband watched the wife cut off the shank. He asked why she cut the shank off, proclaiming “that’s the best part !” She said, “that’s what my mum always did.” The husband asked, “why did your mom do that?” The wife didn’t know.
Later, the wife called her mom to find out why she cut the shank on a roast lamb. Her mom said, “because that was what my mum always did..”
So the wife called her grandmother – and asked her – Grandma – why did you always cut off the lamb shank ?
Grandma’s reply – Dear – I did that so it would fit in the baking pan!!
Where are you running patterns from the past in your life ? Next time you do something with our question, stop and ask yourself – Why do I do this ?
